So, Let’s Talk Friends

A few days ago, I had a revelation: friend groups are extra dynamic.

In every large friend group, there’s two types of people:

1. The ‘glue’ - These friends have strong friendships with most of the people in the group. They tend to make plans, lead group conversations and take care of birthday gifts.

2. The ‘newbie’ - These friends have strong friendships with a few of the people in the group. Often, these people have just become a part of the group and are finding their footing!

So, what’s the point?

The point is that it is okay to be either! In fact, most friend groups have both types of people.

I had this revelation because I was feeling uncomfortable as the newbie. I had just entered a friend group and I didn’t know how to be myself. I felt lost in the already predetermined friend dynamic. I felt weird about not knowing some of the people as well as others.

But here’s the thing, this is mostly normal!

I never understood this feeling because in my previous friend groups, I had always been the glue. I always felt connected to everyone. But that’s not the case anymore and there is nothing wrong with that.

With time, you’ll become close to everyone. You may not become the glue but you will find your footing. It is just a time of transition right now. Stop overthinking and just enjoy yourself. You deserve it.