As we enter our 20s, we are faced with varying degrees of pressure. The societal demands are high: we need to obtain a stable job, succeed academically, find our own place, build a long-lasting romantic relationship and so much more!
At some point, the pressure becomes too much. It’s no longer just the expectation we put on ourselves, but also everyone else’s expectations of us. Whether it's family, friends, mentors, or society, it feels like we are sinking into a neverending pit of darkness.
Personally, the hardest part for me was to come to terms with how I wasn’t worried about disappointing myself. Instead, I was worried about disappointing everyone around me. I wasn’t scared of failing. I was scared of disappointing people.
Unfortunately, these fears can sometimes lead us to live life for everyone else. I find myself spending my time based on what is expected of me. But that’s the issue! It shouldn’t be like that at all.
Your 20s are the time to explore, take risks, and discover yourself. It’s the time to try different things and find out what you like and don’t like. There is no time to spend worrying about others and how they want you to live your life. Life is too short. Although it is important to be considerate of your loved ones, it is equally important to be considerate of yourself.
I believe the key to accepting the pressure we are tasked with is to recognize that you can only do your best. We don’t want to disappoint those who support us, but we also don’t want to disappoint ourselves 30 years down the road with regrets. Find a balance between other’s expectations and your needs and wants. Recognize that you can only do your best. It’s going to be okay. I’m also figuring it out myself, but I’ll let you know when I make some progress. As of right now, let’s face our 20s together <3
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