Confidence

Mental Health Disclaimer: the following contents are based on individual experiences. Please refer to professional opinions for further guidance.

Confidence is a sensitive topic for me. I have struggled in numerous points in my life with confidence.

Am I good enough? Am I beautiful? Can I do this? These ugly thoughts flood my brain often.

I struggle with my body image and my abilities.

I wonder “Why do I care so much about what other people think?” and I never found the answer. It is the pressure society puts on us to be perfect.

I needed to realize a few things. Although this is something I still struggle with to this day, here are several things that I do my best to remember each time ugly thoughts flood my brain.

5 things you need to realize for your well-being:

1. Not everyone is going to like you

Some people are going to think that you are drop dead gorgeous! Others, not so much.

You need to realize that this is how it works with everyone. You are not going to think everyone you see is pretty or handsome, either.

It is important to look at the positive here: although some people won't find you attractive, there are people that will find you so attractive, that they will embarrass themselves to get a chance to talk to you.

Remember that ^

2. An opinion is an opinion

There will be people that will dislike/hate you when they haven't even met you. They will have made a judgement about who you are based on rumours that aren't true, and you don't even get a chance to change their mind.

If they hate you, that’s fine because they hate the idea of you and not who you actually are (since they don't know you).

So, don’t let a judgemental person waltz into your life and put you down.

All that should really matter to you is that your loved ones, know and adore the REAL you!

3. Do not be afraid of failure

Did you ever think that you did not have good enough skills to succeed in a task? Did you ever worry about what people would think of you if you failed?

You are not confident in your abilities because you have not taken the risk and put yourself out there to become good at the skill. Most of us struggle with putting ourselves out there because we fear failing.

Until you try, until you risk it all, until you do your best…

...You won't become confident in your abilities.

You need to put yourself out there and when you do, try as hell to not fail. Work hard and trust me, you’ll feel good about yourself when you succeed. If you don't succeed, learn from it and try again.

4. Not everyone is going to be nice

There are going to be people that enjoy bringing others down. People that exist in your life to simply tear you down.

When they are rude to you, when they take a shot at you, choose to be the bigger person.

Don't talk back, it is not worth it.

Instead, look at the positive: what are they really trying to tell you to do better? Is what they think true? Can you grow as a person from this experience? If not, disregard what they say completely, because they are WRONG.

Constructive criticism is the way to go.

5. What matter the most, is what you think about yourself

Are you happy with yourself?

Do you think you're a good person?

Is there something about yourself that you want to improve?

Be self aware. Find that core within yourself: is that core content with life?

Ask yourself this every single day.

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Be strong, you can do this. You can get through it.